Modern culture tells us we should be constantly influencing, leading, and "making an impact." Social media has turned everyone into would-be life coaches. Could our persistent need to fix others be the very thing preventing genuine growth? Both theirs and ours?

The late conductor Carlo Maria Giulini was known for an unusual approach in the classical music world. Other conductors waved their arms dramatically and barked rigid instructions at their orchestras. But Giulini made only subtle movements on the podium, barely stirring.

When asked why he didn't exert more control, he explained, "I am not a dictator. These musicians are artists. My role is to create the space where their artistry can flourish." He meant it. This approach led to some of the most celebrated performances in classical music history, particularly with the Los Angeles Philharmonic. The musicians felt it too. They reported feeling more creative and committed precisely because they weren't being controlled.